The wisest man I ever have or will know, told me repeatedly from an early age, “A man might in his life have only 1 true friend, he is very lucky if he has 2 or 3, you might have a lot of acquaintances, but only a few true friends.”

You can argue with that or believe some of it but deep down we don’t want to believe that. We want to dream of having 50 real friends. This is not a bad dream. We were created to be in community.

There is no present situation where there is “un-friending” or betrayal. I am not sour about anything. No tale of bitterness that we constantly see and hear; the disgruntlement of someone when they say, “Now I see who my true friends are.”

However, the hard life of my grandfather taught him that friendship is rare, costly, and to be guarded and treasured. The older I get, the more I see this to be true.

If you grew up in the 1990’s or earlier, friendship was defined by T.V. shows like Cheers and Friends, where “everyone knows your name” and there are open doors to apartments.

Not hating on the shows, but friendship like other aspects of life that can be defined by culture soon morph into different understandings.

There should be no need in discussing if the friendship is built on financial gain, lifestyle improvement, or anything in the regards to advancing in certain circles. These things are obviously selfish and shortsighted but are far too often a kindling of friendship only for the relationship to be discarded once the objective has been achieved.

I am not warning against acquaintances either. Every friendship has to start somewhere. In fact, I would charge you to keep your eyes open to who could be a friend. Be generous with your resources with acquaintances for the sake of, hospitality, community and eventually friendship; things this world sorely needs.

As I battled anxiety and am battling anxiety, two things, among others, have been greatly beneficial.

1) Sleep

2) Friends

Hey, my friends can’t sleep for me, so sleep comes first.

All kidding aside, my friends supported me in the ways that I needed support. They helped in ways that I needed help.

In the gospel of John, Jesus said “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

Laying down your life isn’t just the proverbial “falling on a grenade for someone”.

As Jesus described, it is as he loves us. This means sacrificial among many other things.

My best explanation is, my friends not only loved me, but they saw what I love and they loved those things as well. My friends loved and cared for my wife, my kids, my church, not just me.

Who are my friends? How could I look into someone’s life and love them the way they would like to be loved? What do my friends love? Who do they love? Who might become a friend?


  1. I frequently hear persons in old age say how they would live if they were to live their lives over again. Resolved, that I will just so as I can think I shall wish I had done, supposing I live to old age. (July 8, 1723) Jonathan Edwards.

Common Grace:

Music. It is not hard to see that humans were created with a desire for music. Some more than others. Some more talented than others. Music is involved in celebrations and mourning. Music accompanies movies as soundtracks. Lyrics to music have been a source of transferring history and lessons for thousands of years. Most recently music was set to a playlist during a weekend getaway.


Music takes place all over the Bible, right in the middle there is Psalm 95:1 Oh come, let us sing to the LORD; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation!


Holiday Hills Country Club. My hometown course. Sure, it’s the golf course that I have played the most and it would be easy to compare to other courses and criticize if I didn’t know better. I have recently played a few courses east and south of us. I will play Holiday Hills any day. I try to play mostly with my dad on Thursday evenings a couple times a month, where Holiday Hills hosts a 9-hole scramble. But I also enjoy some backyard chipping teaching my son and daughter with junior clubs as my wife laughs at us.


Go ahead and make a subscription to a physical copy magazine or newspaper or digest of some sort.

5 Good Reasons:

1) It provides something better than junk mail or bills in the mailbox

2) There is a genuine, “oh great my _____ copy is here” when it arrives

3) It is pretty cheap, usually less than $20 per year

4) It might start up better conversation around the house than looking at your phones

5) Don’t miss the point; paper subscription of any kind isn’t just about the transfer of information, because you could probably get the same information faster on-line.

The point is that you are more likely to read the material that you are interested in if it arrives physically and you are more likely to share and discuss a physical copy.


Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.


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