What Judgmental People Say on Sunday Part 1


“All those players for that team are criminals!”

“They wouldn’t play for my team!” “I would cut him!”

Now, let’s take the average case that the NFL looks into. Not Aaron Hernandez murder trial and also not Joseph Randle stealing underwear. Without looking at serious evidence, I would imagine that the average case the NFL investigates regarding player discipline would be in the range of DUI (driving under the influence), substance abuse or possession (narcotics or PEDs), or domestic violence.

1st thing that must be clarified is that I am not condoning any of these actions. The emotional, relational, and even financial stakes when it comes to abuse of substances or persons are devastating. I don’t need stats to back this up, I have seen it.

Back to the blog:

Using these examples, is the reaction justified?

Let’s do a hypothetical situation:

28 year old man, money in his pocket, and time on his hands. Buddies want to go out. Party lasts too long. Bad decisions get made. This guy tries to drive home but eventually wrecks his vehicle and proceeds to get arrested for DUI and because of testosterone and alcohol; he puts his hands on his officer adding resisting arrest or even assaulting an officer.

Now if this guy is on a NFL roster he would probably get a 4 – 8 game suspension on top of any legal penalties. But, the fan base would be calling radio stations claiming that he is a thug and needs to be released.

What if the 28 year old man works in Detroit for an automobile manufacturer or on a pipeline in Texas? He posts bail and pays his fine and court fees, goes to all the hearings, and if it is a first time offense probably results in no jail time.

Nobody is claiming he should lose his job and when he does return to work, the same fan who might have called into the local sports shows or blasted him on social media if he was an athlete, but is instead cutting up with him during lunch break.

I have gotten to work in various work environments with guys who have felony criminal history, vulgar prison tats, have battled or battling serious drug addiction, violent backgrounds, etc. Want to know the strange part about that? They were some of my most dependable, productive, cooperative coworkers. Sure, some times it didn’t work out, they got fired, quit, or had to move.

You know what else happened to me? A couple of years ago, my employment was terminated due to a layoff due to oil prices.

When you have to file for unemployment, it changes the way you speak about somebody’s livelihood.

We want to fire athletes for things that some of my favorite coworkers, and closest friends and family have dealt with?

What if that was your coworker, cousin, or best friend?

I understand the other side too. I have had to decide to terminate employment of dozens of workers, based on attendance, job performance, or other business reasons.

I understand there are consequences, and I understand that there are more severe consequences the higher the stakes. And the NFL deals with a lot of money…. I mean stakes.

Main point: I am not expecting us to treat a professional athlete like our best friend when they make a mistake, but I know you wouldn’t say the same things to your best friend that you would about the professional athlete.

The reason why? You have seen them as a person, you have seen them as a unique individual.

C.S. Lewis said,

“There are no ordinary people.

You have never talked to a mere mortal.

Nations, cultures, arts, civilization—these are mortal, and their life is to ours as the life of a gnat.

But it is immortals whom we joke with, work with, marry, snub, and exploit—immortal horrors or everlasting splendors.”

Think about that. Every person you have ever seen was made in the image of God. Whether he works for the NFL or for General Motors.

Those Judgmental People on Sunday

You know what people I am talking about.

The people that look forward all week for Sunday morning, so that they can get out of bed and put their overpriced clothes on and stick their noses up at people who may not wear the same attire.

The people that love to sit next to one another that dress the same and poke at those who think differently.

The people that love going to watch someone else do the work on Sundays but don’t ever actually do it themselves.

The people that get really excited when something on Sunday happens but you don’t hear a peep from the rest of the week.

After their Sunday ritual they go off to eat too much and take a nap.

These people….they are the worst.

It used to be you just had to put up with them on Sunday, but now it is constantly through their phone, it’s all they want to talk about at parties; they have secret get-togethers to plan out their year.

I’m telling you, these judgmental people are ruining America.

You know which judgmental people I’m talking about! Football fans! They are the most judgmental, hyper-critical, overbearing people.

So…..yeah all this is meant to be in good humor. But I will be doing a blog series comparing what we expect out of our football players, coaches, owners, franchises, league, and etc. through a Christian worldview. It should be fun, but hopefully there will be some self-examination as well.

The overall point is to be cautious of what we expect from other people.

What do we expect from our wives, husbands, kids, friends, family, church family, co-workers? NFL teams and players?

Could we stand under our own expectations of others?

This will be worked out under a series of topics that we hear throughout NFL fan bases.

What would happen if those expectations got turned around on us?

It should be fun, but hopefully encourages myself and others to extend grace.

In a parable (Luke 19:22) Jesus teaches, “I will condemn you with your own words…”

Now, sin is anything not of faith, sin results in separation from God. Jesus does not need our own words to condemn us. God’s holiness is much higher than our standards. What a great tool however; to show us the harshness of our hearts, that not only would we be crushed by God’s holiness, but we crush ourselves with our expectations of others that we cannot hold up to.

God knows that we crush ourselves and that we choose to separate ourselves from him, bringing judgement upon us.

That is why Jesus came down, bringing perfect obedience from Heaven, to absorb the wrath of judgement on the cross and remove condemnation; there is salvation from judgement to be received by grace through faith.

Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

So I am definitely not condemning believers or football fans, of which I am both. The aim is to enjoy some humor and honesty while we examine what might be going through our minds while our eyes are on the bible, or the game.


  1. Resolved, never to speak evil of any, except I have some particular good call for it. (Dec. 19, 1722)

Common Grace:

Sitting down. Better yet, how about sitting down in a good chair, or even “your” chair. A friend recently came over and I insisted him sit in the best chair, that I may or may not sit in most of the time. But it is also a symbol of: your work is done. You have the privilege of sitting down; you have the seat of honor to rest.


Hebrews 1:3b After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high…

Speaking of Jesus, who died on the cross for the removal of our sins and after defeating death, resurrected and ascended back to heaven and “sat down at the right hand of the Majesty”


Brazos Cinema III, the Mineral Wells movie theater.

Now the temptation is to drive 30 minutes east, to a newer theater that has some extra amenities.

But if you live in Mineral Wells, I would encourage you to stay in our town and save the gas. It’s the same movie and a very good experience. I have taken my kids several times this summer and have never had a problem. It is really simple. Go to the movies. Get your snacks. Find your seat. Watch a movie. You really need to drive 30 minutes to do that for a chicken leg or beer while you watch the movie? Go to dinner afterwards! Stay in your city!


Hey while you are at the movies, especially in Mineral Wells, skip the popcorn and go straight for the pretzel. Man those pretzels are so good. Hot, check. Salted, check. Buttered, check. Extra cheese sauce to dip in?! Check. It is my new “go to” movie snack. Buy you a pretzel the next time you are at the movies. Because they are really good and it would be really awkward to see you pull a pretzel out of your bag. I see you sneaking candy into the theaters.


Psalm 16:11

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.




Friends, Golf, and Country Living Magazine

The wisest man I ever have or will know, told me repeatedly from an early age, “A man might in his life have only 1 true friend, he is very lucky if he has 2 or 3, you might have a lot of acquaintances, but only a few true friends.”

You can argue with that or believe some of it but deep down we don’t want to believe that. We want to dream of having 50 real friends. This is not a bad dream. We were created to be in community.

There is no present situation where there is “un-friending” or betrayal. I am not sour about anything. No tale of bitterness that we constantly see and hear; the disgruntlement of someone when they say, “Now I see who my true friends are.”

However, the hard life of my grandfather taught him that friendship is rare, costly, and to be guarded and treasured. The older I get, the more I see this to be true.

If you grew up in the 1990’s or earlier, friendship was defined by T.V. shows like Cheers and Friends, where “everyone knows your name” and there are open doors to apartments.

Not hating on the shows, but friendship like other aspects of life that can be defined by culture soon morph into different understandings.

There should be no need in discussing if the friendship is built on financial gain, lifestyle improvement, or anything in the regards to advancing in certain circles. These things are obviously selfish and shortsighted but are far too often a kindling of friendship only for the relationship to be discarded once the objective has been achieved.

I am not warning against acquaintances either. Every friendship has to start somewhere. In fact, I would charge you to keep your eyes open to who could be a friend. Be generous with your resources with acquaintances for the sake of, hospitality, community and eventually friendship; things this world sorely needs.

As I battled anxiety and am battling anxiety, two things, among others, have been greatly beneficial.

1) Sleep

2) Friends

Hey, my friends can’t sleep for me, so sleep comes first.

All kidding aside, my friends supported me in the ways that I needed support. They helped in ways that I needed help.

In the gospel of John, Jesus said “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

Laying down your life isn’t just the proverbial “falling on a grenade for someone”.

As Jesus described, it is as he loves us. This means sacrificial among many other things.

My best explanation is, my friends not only loved me, but they saw what I love and they loved those things as well. My friends loved and cared for my wife, my kids, my church, not just me.

Who are my friends? How could I look into someone’s life and love them the way they would like to be loved? What do my friends love? Who do they love? Who might become a friend?


  1. I frequently hear persons in old age say how they would live if they were to live their lives over again. Resolved, that I will just so as I can think I shall wish I had done, supposing I live to old age. (July 8, 1723) Jonathan Edwards.

Common Grace:

Music. It is not hard to see that humans were created with a desire for music. Some more than others. Some more talented than others. Music is involved in celebrations and mourning. Music accompanies movies as soundtracks. Lyrics to music have been a source of transferring history and lessons for thousands of years. Most recently music was set to a playlist during a weekend getaway.


Music takes place all over the Bible, right in the middle there is Psalm 95:1 Oh come, let us sing to the LORD; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation!


Holiday Hills Country Club. My hometown course. Sure, it’s the golf course that I have played the most and it would be easy to compare to other courses and criticize if I didn’t know better. I have recently played a few courses east and south of us. I will play Holiday Hills any day. I try to play mostly with my dad on Thursday evenings a couple times a month, where Holiday Hills hosts a 9-hole scramble. But I also enjoy some backyard chipping teaching my son and daughter with junior clubs as my wife laughs at us.


Go ahead and make a subscription to a physical copy magazine or newspaper or digest of some sort.

5 Good Reasons:

1) It provides something better than junk mail or bills in the mailbox

2) There is a genuine, “oh great my _____ copy is here” when it arrives

3) It is pretty cheap, usually less than $20 per year

4) It might start up better conversation around the house than looking at your phones

5) Don’t miss the point; paper subscription of any kind isn’t just about the transfer of information, because you could probably get the same information faster on-line.

The point is that you are more likely to read the material that you are interested in if it arrives physically and you are more likely to share and discuss a physical copy.


Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Michael Scott vs. Leslie Knope

If you are not aware, Leslie Knope is the  deputy director played by Amy Poehler in the T.V. show “Parks & Recreation” and Michael Scott is Steve Carrell’s character who is the Regional Manager of Dunder Mifflin for the show “The Office”.

Which character do you like better?

Which workplace would you rather go to everyday?

Which show would you rather watch, if you had to choose one?

Before we go any further, let me say this: both shows are All-Time, both shows have hooked me in and made me laugh, like deep down, belly chuckle, can’t breathe, tears streaming type laugh.

But…”Parks and Rec” is better.

Let me tell you why, actually first, let me tell you a couple reasons why it is not.

Parks and Rec is not better than The Office because Ron Swanson is the best character of all time, though he is.

Parks and Rec is not better than The Office because Chris Pratt as Andy was a perfect casting job of all time, though this is true.

Parks and Rec is better than The Office because Leslie Knope is a better character than Michal Scott.

I don’t mean that Amy Poehler is a better actor than Steve Carrell or that even Leslie Knope is funnier than Michael Scott.

I mean that I prefer the “character’s-character” of Leslie over the core of Michael. I prefer the heartbeat of Parks and Rec over the tone of The Office.

For instance, Michael Scott, his main objective out of going to work as Regional Manager of Dunder Mifflin is admiration from employees, loyalty from friends, girls to want him, guys to want to be him, everyone to value his business savvy, except for the fact that he does not work hard, is demeaning and insulting, and overall selfish and careless.

It is great though, this sets up for awkward scenarios and genius comedy.

On the other hand, Leslie Knope’s reason to go to work = tirelessly fight for democracy, mainly in the form of supplying public venues and forums and enjoyment of parks.

Despite being offered a better job in the rival, nicer town of Eagleton, she chose to stay in the lesser town of Pawnee as deputy director. Unlike Michael she tries so hard at her job that even Ron Swanson who hates government jobs is forced to appreciate her. Unlike Michael, she sacrifices so much that people love her.

For example, in one episode Michael ordered ice-cream cake for a party to celebrate a person who is lactose intolerant and couldn’t eat their own cake.

I admit, another incredibly funny episode, selfish, but funny.

While Leslie, tailors a party specifically to the person of honor, like when Ron (who hates people and especially having his birthday celebrated) received a gift from Leslie of an office to himself, with steak and scotch while he watched a western movie she rented and she even designated a cab for his use when he was ready and then, left him alone.

Sure, both shows have similar story lines but the difference is that when I watch The Office, I feel an impulse to disengage from the real world because of its negativity and cynicism, although yes, extremely funny. When I watch Parks & Rec I feel determined and hopeful.

I am also not stating that Parks and Rec does not contain cynicism, negativity, or the other stuff that fills most shows like romantic plots, bathroom humor, because it does. I also admit, that I would still watch The Office.

My main point is that Leslie Knope is the better Michael Scott.

Michael Scott wants the likeability that Leslie Knope earned. Michael tries to be liked at the expense of others, Leslie gets it at her own expense.

Michael wants the admiration Leslie has. Michael tries to demand it through the job title. Leslie gets it from determination.

Michael wants the success and vision Leslie has. Michael pretends to have sales skills and vision. Leslie has it from the drive of maintaining and restoring the parks of Pawnee, for the people of Pawnee.

We use this same tact of exegesis and interpretation in bible study and preaching, because, well, we see it in the bible.

Like in 1 Corinthians where Paul compares Jesus with Adam, where Adam was tempted and failed bringing sin into the world – Jesus was tempted and proved faithful defeating death for the world. And in Hebrews where Jesus is the better Moses, Moses was used in installing the law which showed our sin and need; Jesus fulfills the law on our behalf.

Obviously I am not saying that Parks & Rec is about the gospel or that I would use this as a sermon illustration.

What I am saying is that there are stories and shadows all around us that remind us of the eternal story that we are in.

Parks & Rec is better in my opinion, because what it reminds me of.


  1. Resolved, after afflictions to inquire what I am better for them, what good have I got by them, and what I might have got by them.

Common Grace:

Building Structures, the creativity around the world seen in huts, igloos, teepees, cathedrals, or skyscrapers. What started out of necessity for protection from elements grew into an art.


Ephesians 2:18-22

18 For through him we both have access in one Spirit to the Father.19 So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, 20 built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone, 21 in whom the whole structure, being joined together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord. 22 In him you also are being built together into a dwelling place for God by the Spirit.


The Baker Hotel. Whether it ever gets restored or not, the Baker Hotel provides a center of history for Mineral Wells and regardless of fulfillment of its potential, it should be a reminder of potential that Mineral Wells possesses.


If you desire to keep up with news and current events but have little time or patience with networks and newspapers, I recommend a podcast “The Briefing” with Al Mohler. It is a daily podcast that you can listen to that is available first thing in the morning about that day’s topics covered through a Christian worldview. If you want a secular snapshot there is a good email subscription available for daily coverage from Mike Allen at Axios. I have found these helpful to keep me informed but not depressed.

The BriefingAlbertMohler.com

Psalm 16:11

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.



My Love / Hate with Baseball

I grew up playing “catch” with dad. “Home-run derby” with friends. Little League. All of that.

I like baseball as a sport and game.

But I have a real love / hate relationship with Major League Baseball.

Take for instance, the recent wonderful Opening Day Game. As soon as the first players report to practices the hardcore baseball fans get real excited and the baseball buzz gets stronger as the first game approaches. Some people think it should be a national holiday!

It is an amazing event. The new teams take the field with 30-40K+ fans cheering on a sunny spring day with beer and hot dogs and all the new crazy stadium foods. At this point, the fan is only concerned with the next 9 innings. The “Ace” starting pitcher is on the mound, most players are healthy, and every team has a fair shot for playoff success.

Opening Day is great. But then as that game is completed, I realize that there are 161 more games to go!

Here in lies my love / hate.

In fact why I am including this, is not to be a post listing some of the things that I love and then listing some of the things that I hate.

I HATE that the baseball season takes 6 months and there are 10x more baseball games than football games. I hate that the baseball teams go through so many injuries, call ups, position changes, trades, etc.


I LOVE that the baseball season forces teams to become – what sports guys call – “galvanized.”

I am not sure if most sports guys on sports radio or ESPN are familiar with what galvanization is.

At my place of work, we will cut steel, form it, maybe weld it, whatever to make the part and then send it to a vendor to be “galvanized”.

Galvanizing is a process where an item is dipped into molten zinc. The item then has a thick layer of coating.

This can serve both ways, to keep things from outside contaminating what is inside and to keep the desired elements that are inside from corroding or escaping.

Sports metaphors like “galvanize” can become so over used that they lose their meaning.

At the season in my life, I am learning to not value the things in life that haven’t been galvanized in my life and to really only hold on to things that I am willing to go through a process of refining and coating of hot metal.

In life, the process of galvanizing comes through suffering of sickness, loss, mistakes, disagreements, etc.

In the past years I have lost relationships, places, activities, objects and even a job.

Baseball and what is required to succeed in it does not show us how to succeed in life. Baseball is an imitation and expression of the process of life that shows us what is valuable.

It is tempting to believe the lie that gratification comes easy. What book, movie, or song was ever written about the slacker kid getting a CEO position and feeling completely satisfied?

No, stories are written about the long journeys of heroes overcoming obstacles and rising up from defeat to earn victory.

Whether it is the turmoil of liking a baseball game or not having the patience of 162 game season, or maybe you are in a situation of life where something is being galvanized, or you don’t know if you have the courage or strength to be the hero, let me tell you something…….

You don’t. You shouldn’t, it is too tough, you can’t, it is bigger than you.

But it can be given to you.

Jesus said that “in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

Baseball is a game that shadows endurance, galvanizing, and the possibility of success.

In life, we have the real opportunities but ultimately the incompletion and failure of.

In the gospel, we have all the accomplishments of Jesus in Him.

We can watch Kirk Gibson, hobbling around the bases after the epic home run.

We can watch the Red Sox come back from down 0-3 in the playoffs.

But we can’t live in it. We can even buy their championship rings, but we don’t have their attributes.

In Jesus, we were crucified with him, we were buried, we were baptized with him, we will be raised with him. We are given his attributes. We are given his faithfulness, his righteousness, his obedience.


  1. Resolved, never to lose one moment of time; but improve it the most profitable way I possibly can.

Common Grace:

Rain. I ran my sprinklers consistently but nothing can replace what the rain can do for our lawn. Just a couple weeks ago, my backyard was crunchy and yellow. Just a few showers later I see the strong healthy grass taking over and now I need to mow every week. My wife’s garden is sprouting and growing and looking good with flowers and smells good with different herbs.


Just like my efforts with grass and my wife’s with gardening; we can work and toil and sweat but on our own we are not only limited but in futility. Jesus tells us that, “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”….”As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love.”


Center of Life. I have seen their fight against poverty around our town of Mineral Wells, TX. They offer  ministry, classes, assistance, and other programs aiming to help people out of the cycle of poverty. They were also crucial in assisting the town when we had a main water line bust and over 90% of the town had ZERO running water, the Center of Life became a hub to distribute bottled water to the town.


“Salsa Dogs”. Something my wife and I have eaten for years. Can’t remember how or where we came up with these. But is basically a hot dog with melted shredded cheese and topped with salsa.

Psalm 16:11

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.


Shock and Awe-Fully Average

Are you the most skilled person you know at something?

Or maybe, not the best but very, very good at something? Like a particular sport, video games, gardening, outdoors, music, fashion, etc.? Maybe you don’t feel like you are excellent at anything. You might feel like you are notoriously, even comically bad at most everything.

Me? I am right in the middle, pretty average.

The world we live in is surrounding us in the value of shock and awe. Everything is getting bigger, better, faster, more radical, more extreme. While I live and function, at a surface level, of very average.

Now before you begin thinking that I have low self-esteem, depressed, or think that I don’t work towards excellence, let me shoot you straight: I have no problem believing that I am average. No, I am also not going with the, “there is no such thing as an average person, we are all miracles” or “we are all made in God’s image”, yes, yes, that is true. I have kids, they are miracles. This is not my subject for discussion though.

This is different than that.

There is peace and contentment in my identity as an average person. Because in “this world” my place is to be awe-fully average. Not awfully average as in very mediocre or too bad to even be considered average. But my place in life, at this season especially is to be right in the middle of things. Good in every regard but like 90’s sitcom average. Awe-fully average.

Don’t miss the point here. Average in status and skill but incredible in substance and experience. Average has put me in the exact positions in life to see things that are awe inspiring. Fully in awe of the One who is like no other. Jesus. I am full of awe because I see him working in me, my wife, my family, my brothers and sisters at church. There is no mistaking how very non-average his work was and is.

Everyone knows people try hard and do better. Have you seen people transformed?

We can “forgive and forget” or “move on”. Have you seen true reconciliation that actually refines and strengthens relationships?

People all around us struggle in the status quo. Have you seen those with limited incomes, give generously even when it hurts?

Great people overcome obstacles. Have you seen normal people glorify God in their suffering?

I see these things on a consistent basis and it is awesome. That is why we do what we do.

Don’t miss the forest for the trees, contentment is not the answer. Jesus is.

I am content with being average because while I am not the best at anything, there is an extraordinary gospel at work around me.

Godliness with contentment is great gain. – 1 Timothy 6:6


  1. I frequently hear persons in old age say how they would live, if they were to live their lives over again: Resolved, that I will live just so as I can think I shall wish I had done, supposing I live to old age. July 8, 1723.

Common Grace:

The sun, that big, bright, hot star that in Texas we like to see this time of year but hate by end of June. I often neglect the magnitude of the sun. I don’t get into astronomy; don’t garden, not really into most summer activities. Maybe I need to read outside more. But right now, the sun is warm, not too hot, spring is here and people are taking advantages in different ways.


For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, ….For in him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell, and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of his cross. – Col 1:16-20

Jesus is attributed with being Creator, creator of sun and earth, you and me. Made peace by the blood of his cross. So Jesus being very God, left heaven, came to his creation, to die a death absorbing the wrath of God, making peace with us who would receive faith in him by the blood of his cross.


Dairy Mart. Cheeseburger with jalapenos. Sweet Potato Fries. Vanilla Coke. Best burger in town, state, planet. Get a fried egg on top. Order their “Crazy Burger” if you dare. Definitely get the Sweet Potato Fries. Steak Fingers are great. My kids love the corn dogs. Did I mention Sweet Potato Fries? What is not to like. Ice Cream and Burger joint where you can eat outside on picnic tables.


Book to read:

Awe: Why it Matters for Everything We Think, Say, and Do by Paul David Tripp

Lemon Pie

Easter. When you see or hear Easter you think of ______? It might be Resurrection Sunday, but it is probably more along the lines of “easter” eggs or bunny, or maybe those horrible marshmallow “peeps”. Or maybe, a new dress or coloring eggs the night before.

To me, I know it is time for my lemon pie. That is pretty much my main objective. My wife’s lemon pie and I go way back.


It is a perfect spring day at a church bake sale fundraiser and up next is a fresh bright lemon pie. At this point, I didn’t even know if I liked lemon pie but there is a sassy blonde up there displaying her grandma’s recipe that she achieved. So I open up with a big bid to get her attention, and someone outbids. I counter trying to impress her with my determination but apparently this guy must really like lemon pie. The war is on. We are throwing bids like haymakers, me in the back of the crowd bidding for her pie and affection and my adversary sitting down in the front row locked in.

After a 12 round heavyweight fight, who do you think came out victorious? Well, we probably both did. Oh, I won the war; I got the pie and the girl. But this guy in the front row was my future father-in-law exposing my weakness for lemon pie and his daughter as well as my intentions with her to the world. Everyone knows no lemon pie is worth $150 unless there is more than lemon meringue in the air. Yep, he won the day. But he was merciful at letting me off at $150 because I would have gone higher.

Back to Easter. How do you enjoy or celebrate Easter? How should you enjoy or celebrate Easter?

I see a few options and will keep this short.

1) Don’t celebrate Easter at all because:

A) You don’t believe that Jesus resurrected

B) You believe that Jesus defeated death but you choose not to celebrate and are not commanded to.

2) Celebrate Easter, but do so without any cultural practices like the easter bunny and eggs sort of thing.

3) Celebrate Easter as a follower of Christ, and according to passages like 1 Corinthians 8, your conscience is not bothered by the cultural aspects of Easter so you can participate in an egg hunt and have fun.

This is what we choose to do. I know what I am teaching my kids and am not bothered by them picking up eggs out of the grass. To me, that is all they are doing. Eating candy and picking up eggs out of the yard. There is nothing more to it than that.

But what is mandatory on Easter?

Nothing is mandatory because of Easter. However because Easter is on a Sunday, lets rephrase the question. What generally happens on Sundays, regardless of Easter or not?

On Sundays the church gathers together. Emphasis on when the church gathers. When the church gathers, the gospel is proclaimed and celebrated. Easter or not. Jesus defeated death, rose from the grave, walked out of a tomb after 3 days; Jesus died and didn’t stay dead. For me, for you, for us. So when the church gathers, we celebrate this.

I don’t just need this on Sundays; I need to hear this every day.

I sincerely hope that we are hearing more about the gospel than what we should or should not do on Easter. The gospel isn’t an Easter message, it is an everyday message. If your Easter sermon sounds radically different than most Sundays, it might be time to look for a new church.

One evening when my kids and I were reading through this passage of Jesus’ crucifixion, my little girl said something like, “Jesus died, that is really sad.” And I explained, “Of course, in a way your right that is really sad. But it is also the greatest thing ever because he died the death we should have died and he rose again that we may live.”


  1. Resolved, not only to refrain from an air of dislike, fretfulness, and anger in conversation, but to exhibit an air of love, cheerfulness and benignity.

Common Grace:

Children. Or being a kid. Children are a gift. Remember when your biggest concern was not being bored. Don’t directly take this with responsibilities of parenting, but just take a look at the miracle that kids are. What they are capable of. I am also not saying they are innocent but most kids tend to be a little more gracious than adults. They want to play with you and they want you to like them.


John 1:12 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

Childlike faith is dependent on knowing you can’t help yourself and that your identity is linked to another. In there is true freedom and great joy.


Treehouse Learning Center (Daycare and Pre-school) located at Grace Church of Mineral Wells. This is a no-brainer because of the wonderful staff. I also get to see the training, hard work, and integrity that surpasses just being responsible with children, which is a great task in itself. They are selfless and trustworthy. As a bonus, the facility is multifunctional as Grace Church’s kids building and fellowship hall and some of the profit from the Treehouse Learning Center is redirected to church ministries and missions. Like Cocoon Pregnancy Resource Center and Church plants and pastors in Yucatán, Mexico.


Be a neighbor. Get past social awkwardness. Do more than wave. If you need a starting point, buy a dessert and take it to them, introduce or re-introduce yourself. Imagine life around your house if there was a connection with other people with real relationships.

On Prayer

Below is a poem about a common question. What is prayer? This is more my attempt to worship with my heart and mind not to be a great poet, but I hope you find it helpful.

Is prayer, earnest moments of silence or sacrificial seconds of flounder

Is it the intensity of the pious or holy mystic wonder

Is prayer, the processing of the word or conversing in daily adventure

Is it bringing requests to an alter or regurgitation of the scripture

Is prayer the changing of God’s mind, is it worth it at all

Is it helping this life of mine or is it prosperity to be called

Is my prayer enjoying sweet divinity, is it from my weak and faint

Is it in Proper Trinity, is it in fellowship with the saints

Is my prayer aware of my dark, is it fitting to my morning

Is it sanctifying of the heart, in it thy kingdom come according

Is my prayer not my will but yours would, is it for sheep not of this fold

Is it enduring of sweating blood, putting to death of things I hold

Prayer, of first importance and epitomize

Prayer, is faith, in practice and exercise

Prayer, is dependent on our Prophet, Priest, and King

Prayer, even our bests, can never be justifying

Prayer, possible from Calvary

Prayer, groaning from the Guarantee

Prayer, modeled and commanded by the Triune

Prayer, to abide and not neglect Holy Commune


25. Resolved, to examine carefully, and constantly, what that one thing in me is, which causes me in the least to doubt of the love of God; and to direct all my forces against it.

Common Grace:

The sense of smell, obviously talking about pleasing scents. Not just great spring time smells of the baseball field, fresh cut lawn, flowers, etc but also I have heard that the sense of smell has the strongest power of senses to recall a memory. You can imagine how this can, through memory and even emotion, link us to smells from childhood places, loved ones, and some of our most special occasions.


In grace, there is no longer any ritual that needs to be offered to God that it may be accepted as a fragrant offering, but now we are to live a life from a new heart and spirit changed by the gospel, a worshipful life not only to God, but for the people around us a testimony to the gospel.

Ephesians 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

2 Corinthians 2:14-16 But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing, to one a fragrance from death to death, to the other a fragrance from life to life.


Merrimac & North antique, bakery, and salon shop. It is a cool spot with vintage items, the best cookies, and great stylists and service but my favorite part about this store is that it is a place that adds to Mineral Wells downtown walking around area, or time for grabbing lunch and heading to “Merrimac” for dessert, or building on what could be a nice shopping area that other smaller downtown’s have. I like Merrimac & North and want some more places like it in Mineral Wells.


Put whipped cream in, on, or both to your coffee. Buy a $2 aerosol can of whipped cream, put it into your cup before pour, or pour and then top your coffee with it. Add some cinnamon or drizzle with chocolate syrup. We even found sugar free chocolate syrup, so coffee+whipped cream+sugar free chocolate syrup = OK on our diet. Plus its fun to do with wife and kids. Bonus suggestion, less coffee more cream for the kids, just enough to make them feel apart of what is going on.

Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life;
in your presence there is fullness of joy;
at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Thanks for reading 70 Resolutions. An experiment in blending my appreciation for real writers, like Jonathan Edwards and his resolutions, sharing what I am enjoying in life, and the greatest gift of all: the gospel.




Last Fall, our household had DirecTV installed. It was time. We had gone long enough with not being able to watch the Dallas Cowboys in the comfort of my own living room. We were married in spring of 2009 and it was a wonderful decision to not have cable or satellite television in our home for a time. We saved money, we spent more quality time together as a new couple, and we still had DVD’s for entertainment.

Now I never missed a game, but there was something missing about my son and me not watching the game in our home together. So I pulled the trigger and ordered DirecTV before the first regular season game of 2016.

So it has been a little while since the Cowboys and NFL season has been finished.

Now is really the first time that I have felt the need to justify having DirecTV without the Cowboys. Of course I am not going to cancel, but what might practically make me feel like I am getting my money’s worth?

So my DirecTV, is it worth it?

Since we are typically busy Monday – Wednesday, my wife and I catch up on our “shows” on Thursday evenings.

Do you know what I like?

I like keeping Thursdays free for family night.

I like pretending that I don’t like “This is Us”.

I like “Lethal Weapon” more.

I like James Spader in “Blacklist” even more than that.

I like that my wife records the View just to laugh at them.

I like that my son who has a very hard time sitting still, will lay down on me for an hour to watch Planet Earth nature shows.

I like that my daughter would rather dance to the music than watch what is on.

Several people have offered the advice to watch shows as a way of zoning out to help relax my mind, when dealing with stress. My mind doesn’t work like that, I enjoy the shows but they are more mentally stimulating than relaxing.

I have lived without DirecTV and could live without it again but since the NFL draft is coming up we might as well keep it.

If you want to take away something from this, let it be that as a believer in Jesus Christ is redeemed, some things in this world can be redeemed as well. Christ did not die for DirecTV to be redeemed; he died for his sheep to be redeemed. As a believer in Christ and according to Scripture, there are things that cannot be redeemed. These things are sin. If we try to redeem things that are sin, this will surely bring about loss and death. For when things are not clearly sinful but in the big category of things that are abused, like television, we have to use a sensitive and informed conscience. When it was not a good idea for us to purchase DirecTV, we did not. When we felt like it would be a welcomed addition to our house, we had it installed.

This is where wisdom acquired from Scripture, guidance from the Holy Spirit, and a new heart leads to decisions and changes.

If I neglect my relationship with Christ because of DirecTV, that would be sinful. If I neglect my relationship with my wife and kids, that would be sinful. And so on with real priorities.

Other things in my life have not been dealt with so well. Even now, the kids whine about wanting to watch cartoons when it is bedtime or the news will get irritating. I like DirecTV, I don’t love it.

That is why the resolutions of Jonathan Edwards are so helpful to me; they are a constant reminder of priorities.


  1. Resolved, to live so at all times, as I think is best in my devout frames, and when I have clearest notions of things of the gospel, and another world.

Common Grace:

Clothes are a gift. Very literal for me as about 90% of my clothes were bought for me. The season is changing our attire now, going from winter into spring. Some are very stylish and fashionable; others get made fun of for getting “dressed-up” just to be asked to go change. Yeah that’s me. I don’t really put thought into clothes. I like that I wear basically the same thing to work as I do church Although, I do love seeing my little girl dress up and my boy as a cowboy or superhero, or when my wife and I get a date night and we put the right clothes on for dinner to make the occasion special.


Genesis 3 tells of a time when wearing clothes was not the norm, Adam and Eve did not know to wear clothes until after they sinned against God, verse 10. They had not experienced shame until after sin. God sought them out in verse 21, “And the LORD God made for Adam and for his wife garments of skins and clothed them.” So God made a sacrifice to provide a covering for Adam & Eve because of their shame from sin. In this same chapter God would tell the serpent that eventually, Jesus would be not just a covering, but atonement for sin once and for all for those would have faith in Jesus for the forgiveness of their sins and be reconciled with God.


West City Park is definitely a hometown place that is on my mind right now. My son’s baseball season is kicked off causing flashbacks of me playing out at the baseball fields there. The city pool is out there, next to the volleyball court, kids enjoy the skate park, some people group exercise, and we like to meet other families out to have kids play together. Tons of birthday parties are out there and last year we had our family Easter celebration there. I bet most of Mineral Wells can think of some great memories that occurred at the West City Park.


Cook your bacon in the oven. I don’t do it, but my wife does. And hey, listen up; it is the best bacon ever. It cooks crispy and lays flat without getting blackened and curled up. It might be healthier, it might not be, I don’t know, but its better. Better! Cook your bacon in the oven.

There will be a special post next Sunday, something that no one besides my wife has read.

Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.



This blog is an experiment in joy. My ambition is for these posts to be full of hope and gladness. Quoting C.S. Lewis, “I think we delight to praise what we enjoy because the praise not merely expresses but completes the enjoyment; it is its appointed consummation.” We should share what we enjoy; I may be the worst at this craft, so this blog is practice for me.
The name is from the famous resolutions, there were actually 70 of them, that Pastor Jonathan Edwards penned in early 1720’s. It may seem odd to find so much pleasure in reading someone else’s resolutions, but these are not the vain resolutions that we give up on by February every year, these are a brilliant man’s commitments to holiness, repentance, ministry, stewardship, right standing with men and God, and not being wasteful or ineffective in a gracious and gospel intended way of life.
I am resolved to write this blog as how I believe Johnny Edwards would have me: in a gracious pursuit to live out a life to the highest means, or as the Westminster Confession of Faith puts it, the chief end of man. What is the chief end of man? Glorify God by enjoying him forever. Quite simply, I am resolved to write this blog to dwell on the ways God is good and the ways I am joyful in him (neither in amount or complete explanation but in my current experiences).
This is not a “power of positive thinking” blog or prosperity blog, however I will commit to 99% of the time only writing about things that I am enjoying, and will not let this become where I grumble. (I leave 1% when I may have to shoot a wolf.)
I also would like to follow a format consisting of: 1st: A resolution of Jonathan Edwards or another puritan work (like Valley of Vision). 2nd: Common Grace, something that we all are privileged to enjoy regardless of almost any scenario. 3rd: Beeline to the Gospel, I’m going to go from Common Grace and make a beeline to the gospel because I believe that this Common Grace is ultimately pointing us to, the gospel 4th: Hometown Praise for Mineral Wells, Texas – for those who read who might live around here or for those who don’t, maybe this might encourage you to value your area’s offerings. And 5th: Recommendations, again, this is an experiment in joy; joy is more potent when we share it.
I will wrap up this post with the format of how the next blog posts will follow:
Resolution: #55 Resolved, to endeavor to my utmost to act as I can think I should do if I had already seen the happiness of heaven and the torments of hell.
Common Grace: conversation, specifically a greeting, but with the intentionality of speaking someone’s name. For example, walking around Wal-Mart, at work, etc. and you come upon someone you know and you say, “What’s up man?”, “hey, girl!”, or I am old-school and would say, “How ya doing, bud?” Instead, try “Good Morning, Brandon” or “Hello Kelly”. A calling out of someone’s name can signify a connection and an identifying of a relationship that could in a simple but profound way benefit someone.
Beeline to Gospel: Not only does God call those who believe, and of course he knows our name, but upon professing faith in the name of Jesus and the work done at the cross, we are no longer under the name of Adam, as in the fallen state of man in sin and separation with God, but under the name of Jesus, we are adopted and have a new identity, as children of God. Names are important to God, are important in the bible, there is no other name under which men can be saved, and your neighbor’s name is important too.
Hometown: I spent about 4 hours yesterday with my family at the Mineral Wells Lake & State Park. Wonderful trails to hike, bike, or ride horses. Nice beach, picnic areas, and little cabins. I also hear there are good fishing and camping spots. It was already high 80’s in mid-March in Mineral Wells, so we got some sun and a little workout but it was beautiful and a great experience that I look forward to sharing more frequently with my wife and kids. Go find a park or lake.
Recommendation: Rest. I’m preaching to myself here. Get some rest! Not just zoning out, which can be helpful, but I am talking about sleep. I recently had to go to the doctor because after a busy season of life, I experienced some intense anxiety, and I believe a large contributor of my anxiousness was a pattern of “running on” about 5-6 hours of sleep, caffeine, and simple carbs. This all came crashing down on me pretty hard, and when I went to the doctor, I was “prescribed” sleep. I then considered it my job to get 8-9 hours of sleep, which I know is not always possible, but as often as you can, get some rest, specifically sleep. This is not an excuse to be a bum. Work hard, but you can also try to go to bed by 10 and wake up at 6, or whatever time fits you best. I actually had to repent of not resting, so my recommendation to you: rest. Spring Break is over this week for us, time to get back in one of my favorite things, a routine.
I will not make any promises but should be posting at least once a week, probably Sunday evenings.
Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.